The infamous 1-10 looks scale, in this internet age.

I now understand the “stay single” until you’re into your 30s mantra my generation is a part of. It’s not lack of variety, but an excess of variety, options, and details. Each user to any unique dating site is allowed the chance to pore over literally thousands of profiles with pictures. Pictures that paint the other person in a multitude of ways. Sometimes a person’s true weight is quite hard to discern with the right lighting, clothes, etc.

So my millenial generation is unique, in that it’s become almost a prerequisite to find a mate online, as meeting in a bar is “too sleazy” or short sighted. We pose in the most glamorous, young, and emboldened way we deem necessary for success – then shoot it all out for day after day critique.

I also came up with the theory concerning the famous 1-10 scale we’re quite comfortable in viewing our peers. Say a guy is a 5 or girl for that matter. By virtue of having so many choices and times to pore over profiles, it’s almost a guarantee that their computer driven ego and sense of entitlement will allow them to search hard for let’s say an 8 or 9. Becoming frustrated, this person crassly passes by possibilities (5,6, or maybe 7’s) This guy or girl is in a trap of their own design.

The difference with our parents generation, is that choice was severely limited. It really came down to who you knew in your small community or high school. Or maybe you would go to college, then have to pick from a few hundred possible mates to marry. With a limited field of contestants, you knew that your time frame was small, and you better just be optimistic/more open-minded, rather than be single well into your late 20s.

Now obviously the parameters have greatly expanded and freedom of choice is turning everyone into a demanding consumer. So I suppose if you truly are an 8-10 and you find another 8-10, chances are good. Buf if you’re part of the 90 percentile that makes up most lookers, good luck.

 2 or 3’s may have the best chance, but again if they go for fellow 2’s or 3’s they run the risk of these people looking for someone 3-4 tiers above their rank. So if 90 percent of people have this mentality, most everyone get’s left in the dust. (the bitter blogger proclaims!  🙂 )

It’s almost like we need the government to intrude on this scene. Like every 3 years you’re branded by a  panel in regards to your “true power ranking”. So you’re able to post this like it was similar to your license, seemingly irrefutable.

For now we each shoot higher and it’s no surprise of how quickly we become dissapointed.

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paranoid post of the day (facebook owns you)

Facebook now lets advertisers use your picture

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Jul 17th 2009 at 7:00PM
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// Most of us are aware of the dangers associated with posting lewd and inappropriate pictures to Facebook. But what about the many family friendly photos you upload to your profile? Thanks to a relatively new Facebook decision, not even your well-thought-out profile pictures are safe. Cheryl Smith, a consultant who blogs at Culture Smith Consulting, raised the alarm today after her husband was served up an ad for “Hot Singles” complete with her picture!

How is this so? By default, Facebook users have been opted into a new Facebook Ads program which places your image in select advertisements based on partnerships (read a profitable selling of your likeness) that Facebook has made.

According to Facebook:

Facebook occasionally pairs advertisements with relevant social actions from a user’s friends to create Facebook Ads. Facebook Ads make advertisements more interesting and more tailored to you and your friends.

While most users would be OK with their likeness being used to advertise a product that they are a fan of on Facebook like Snickers or the World Wildlife Fund; fewer would likely be happy to see their profile picture being used to pimp dating services and the like.

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This goes right along with my own theory on dating sites across the net. Hear me out. I propose that 90 percent of the profiles on most dating sites are FAKE! It’s totally feasible if you consider the ideas that back this up. As you’ve read from the above article, I presume most facebook users don’t read the user agreements. So match.com would have no problem finding a certain kind of guy or girl (or look) and matching it up with a profile that may make sense for this person. With the 30 dollar a month price tag, most sites charge, it’s not hard to imagine that a small staff of writers could respond to your emails of interest. I’m sure there are even web-bot programs that could just as easily take the information from your email and plug it into a responding email. (All of this is not because I was burned in the past…this just makes logical money making sense)

I’m not outright claming match.com is a hoax site. More so creating a mild conspiracy theory. So 90 percent of said site is faked, as random images are “legally” taken from Facebook and sorry frat boy dupes are hustling to get in line. A few emails are sent back and forth, but nothing comes of it. So what, the dude figures she just lost interest; on to the next girl. But I can only imagine how many new users go to the site every day paying the admission cost.

I’ve also been suspect of the E-harmony dating commercials where couples are like “Yea it was so great, so easy, and fast! I mean we started talking 3 weeks ago and we’re already engaged!” And it always seems like these ads are being shot with glamorous beach front property backdrops. Like I said, 90 percent, so of course 10 percent of couples really exist. I’m just pickin the bone of this dating chicken I suppose.

A sucker is truly born every minute. My evidence on all of this isn’t really researched, but I think if you connect the dots you can make sense out of it on your own.